“I don’t like it when dad comes into the bathroom”: in Lattes, victims of incest testify to Emmanuelle Béart

La projection du documentaire “Un silence si bruyant” a été suivie d’un débat. Midi Libre – SYLVIE CAMBON

One in five boys and one in 12 girls are victims of incest. The screening of the documentary "A Silence So Loud", by Emmanuelle Béart and Anastasia Mikova, on Wednesday April 17, in Lattes, brought out dozens of testimonies.

"My name is Sophie, we have the same story". Like Sophie, Cathy, Carole, anonymous people stood up in turn to express the pain of incest, in an uninterrupted dialogue with the directors, during the screening of the documentary “Un silence si bois&quot ;, by Emmanuelle Béart and Anastasia Mikova at the CGR complex in Lattes, Wednesday evening.

We come out stunned.
"Why don't you file a complaint ?" asks Sophie, who filed a complaint of rape against her father, "forty years after the facts". "When leaving the police station, I left a backpack. The little girl that I was was afraid to take this step. The grown-up adult that I am protected her".

"The first time I talked to my psychiatrist about it, at 25, he told me “It doesn’ ;rsquo;it doesn't matter, it's a detail of your life”", remembers Cathy, abused " when I was 2 to when I was 11", also "mother of a child victim of incest".
She speaks "without anger", "I have no sadness either", she says.

At 50, she “realizes to what extent my life is managed by what I’ve experienced, this silence that continues. We learn to accept a lot of things.

"Among the magistrates, there are no mothers confronted with this ?"

Other women, but also a man, didn't say anything else. "I don't like it when dad comes into the bathroom", Quentin said to his mother, his voice now muffled by emotion: " I feel angry, it comes back when I hear the testimonies. You have to live it…"

"I'm very moved, excuse me…" A voice s&rsquo ;strangled. That of a psychotherapist and psychoanalyst, "abused child, like my two brothers", who, for a long time "refused to work with children for fear of finding myself face to face". She testifies to the slowness of justice and the taboo in families: "The first time my mother asked the question “Tell me if it’ arrived ?”, we said “Yes”, and nothing happened".< /p>

"How do we make things happen, there are no mothers among the magistrates who are confronted with that ?&amp ;quot; s’questions Carole.
"The prosecutor closed the case for lack of evidence" s’moves a mother to the flow of machine guns , which makes for a tangled story. "I am a mother mistreated by the justice system", describes at length the mother of"two girls who complained about their father". She was the one who was sentenced "to prison and damages" after a dismissal of the case.

A therapist, again, presents herself as a "little girl attacked by her dad from the age of 1 to 3 and a half”. She assures that "70 % of my patients suffered attacks in their childhood".

"Thank you for talking about sexuality", said the abused man.

"Your film, it stirs… " begins a sixty-year-old who lets her story go in one breath: "From 4 years to 13 years , I was a victim of incest, my mother would wake me up at night to put me in my father's bed when she left for work. I was forbidden to talk about it, the stuttering arrived. She never believed me. She left this world, like my father, and left me with that. At 65, I'm still there.

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