Millions of boys and girls are fatherless: desertion, incarceration, separation. It affects poorer areas more.
According to the 2006 census, there were 1.4 million single-parent families in Canada, 80% of which were headed by mothers. Their children score lower, miss school more, and are more likely to drop out. In 2016, in Quebec, 29.5% of families with children were single parents.
In the United States, over the past 50 years, the number of children raised solely by their mothers has increased dramatically. spectacular. In 1970, the number of fatherless children was around 10%. In 2010, the number of children living with an absent father was 24%.
Absent fathers, criminal sons
This is the case for 85% of American teenagers serving prison sentences, 72% of teenagers who commit murder. Including the 18-year-old who killed nineteen children and two female teachers at an elementary school in Uvalde, Texas on May 24, 2022. It was the deadliest elementary school shooting in the United States since the 2012 Sandy Hook school shooting when 20-year-old Adam Lanza, who lived with his estranged mother, killed her before gunning down 20 students and six school staff.
Also in the United States, 85% of children with behavioral problems come from fatherless homes, as do 70% of adolescents in drug and alcohol treatment centers. Sixty-three percent of teenagers who commit suicide do not have a father.
The fatherless daughter syndrome
Not having a father also has a negative impact on all aspects of a young girl's life, from depression to academic prospects. What specialists call the “fatherless daughter syndrome” is characterized by problems of lack of confidence and self-esteem which leads to dysfunctional relationships with men: 71% of teenage pregnancies are associated with fatherless families. Women without a father are the most likely to divorce.
“Dad is proud of me”
Paternal presence is a key indicator of success for children of all racial, ethnic and socio-economic groups. A dad improves their academic performance, the economic situation of the family and thus ensures them better social mobility.
Are we going one day to return to the nuclear family of yesteryear based on the notion of couple? I doubt. The erosion of societal values and norms and the devaluation of the very concepts of fatherhood and motherhood seem to me irreversible.
We are going to have to learn to live in a society characterized by moral relativism and increasingly violent.