Trans-Mission, an association that wants to support transgender people and break loneliness, in Béziers

Delphine Martin veut briser la solitude des personnes en plein questionnement de genre. Diane Petitmangin – Midi Libre

She is on call at the MVA Daniel-Cordier and wants to break the taboos surrounding transidentity.

An unthinkable solitude. "I had the idea of ​​creating this association two years ago because, at the beginning, I felt really alone. Of course, we can meet people who are in the same trans identity on social networks but that does not replace real contact.

Delphine Martin was born in a man's body but was never in phase with this bodily envelope which did not correspond to her. "For me, it’ has been obvious since I was little. In my time, we didn't talk about it. I started by cross-dressing until I really came to terms with myself and came out.

A help and support space

At 38, she decided to take the plunge and began a transition process. A long journey of four years… At his side, Aurélien Roques experienced the same horrors. "Since I was little, I knew that there was something wrong but it was when I grew up and met my partner that I was able to put words to my discomfort.

The goal of Trans-Mission is to offer a space of help and support, without judgment, to people who are questioning or want to change their gender. "The goal is to come together and feel a little less alone, at first. But also to support and bring our experiences to people who are starting their journey".

Many pitfalls

Support that materializes on an emotional, medical or administrative level, in everyday life. Without forgetting the aftermath, when it comes to reintegrating into professional life. Because the pitfalls are numerous, even if only when it comes to life. acts to change his name in civil status.

"Today, we talk about transgender and transidentity because it’s not a ’simple" sex change operation but a whole process which includes a change at the administrative and/or legal level.

Facing the professional environment

The obstacle course also often continues in the world of work. Delphine Martin thus lost her job (before finding another). "Basically, my boss told me: "I bought a blue sofa. Today, I find myself with a green sofa, I'm not going to redo the whole decor…" It was violent but I told myself it was better to leave.

Tailored listening and monitoring

The Trans-Mission association enjoyed a warm welcome in Béziers. "I wanted to meet the mayor, Robert Ménard, to explain our approach to him, says Delphine Martin, and he asked me a lot of questions. He even wanted to meet the psychiatrist who is following us at the Béziers hospital, while assuring us of his help and I thank him for that".

Trans-Mission has been holding office hours every Saturday, from 2 p.m. to 5 p.m. and by appointment, at the Maison de la vie since March 16 Daniel-Cordier association (2 rue Jeanne-Jugan). Delphine supports trans women (men who want to become women), Aurélien supports trans men and Nathalie, a mother who follows her son (girl who wants to become a boy), is the parent representative.

They are there to answer questions or anxieties, refer you to professionals in the medical world (psychiatrists, surgeons), sort out legal procedures, etc.

Contact: Delphine, 06 78 73 65 59 ; Aurélien, 06 32 32 97 64 ; trans.mission.beziers@gmail.com.

On this Sunday, March 31, International Transgender Day of Visibility, "we would like not to be considered as fairground animals. Changing gender does not make us lesser. This is not a handicap. On the contrary, we went through so many ordeals, both physical and psychological…"

Be in agreement with yourself, no longer live hidden in order to be better reborn and finally live fully. This is the message of Trans-Mission.

Know how to take your time

In a report submitted on March 19, senators The Republicans would like to ban the administration of puberty blockers. to minors à who is diagnosed with “gender dysphoria”, a medical term that refers to suffering between one's perceived and assigned gender. &agrav; the birth. In France, since 2010, it is no longer classified as a “personality disorder”, therefore as a psychological disorder.

These LR senators, who would like to table a bill, deplore the absence of scientific studies on the side effects or recovery of cancer. versatility generated by these drugs and would like to prohibit, before the age of 18, the prescription and administration of cross hormones or sexual reassignment surgery.

"We're not doctors, so it’s difficult to say, estimate Delphine Martin and Aurélien Roques, and to give an opinion on hormone blockers. À everyone has his own opinion. Today, an operation is not possible before the age of 18, unless there is parental consent. What is certain is that we must listen to these young people and support them".

"Afterès, continues Delphine, when we enter the transition course , there is no need to be in a hurry. You have to take the time to do things right. It’s a marathon, not a sprint…"

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