Wellness: Gratitude in Love

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Sometimes it doesn't take much for things to go wrong in a relationship. Conflicts, misunderstandings, lack of communication, the causes are multiple. On the other hand, if we are looking for solutions to live happily as a couple, the options are also numerous. In addition to those that we often hear about, there are other keys, such as gratitude, which is not often mentioned. 

However, according to the author, it would be 'a form of love able to solve many problems. 

Showing gratitude to others is a bit like showing love by paying attention to those around us and thanking them for their gesture or simply for their presence. And this is even more true for his spouse, who, unfortunately, too often becomes something taken for granted. The author Christophe Médici, who is a psychosociologist, offers in his book various forms of gratitude that can bring several benefits in a couple and avoid the worst. You don't have to wait for a birthday and a wonderful gift to say thank you. It happens on a daily basis.

It can be as simple as saying thank you for giving me a call before an interview or for taking the time to ask me what I would be happy to do. do this weekend.

Giving importance to the other

Showing gratitude to your spouse is in a way giving value to the other, a beautiful form of silent love. 

The opposite is indifference, without doubt, the most painful way of saying I love you. Inattention to the other also wreaks havoc in a couple. 

Health through fasting   

Did you know that fasting can prevent certain diseases? This is what Dr. Nagumo believes. Not only can he prevent several diseases, but the Japanese practice of fasting could also, he says, prevent aging. Here, there is no question of going for days without eating, but rather of occasionally taking a single meal a day, especially for overweight people. This is avoided for growing children and adolescents. As excess food causes disease, just think of type 2 diabetes, conversely, giving your body some respite would be beneficial. A questionable theory, however, since many nutritionists do not agree with this. The effect of skipping meals often prompts you to eat more at the next meal.

Among her many tips, choosing the right food and getting enough sleep remain the best ways to live healthy. 

Surviving the loss of your pet

For many, a pet is synonymous with undying love. He is a full member of the family. For people living alone, a pet represents an even stronger emotional bond, sometimes the only one in their life. Unfortunately, we usually outlive our dog or cat, their life expectancy being shorter than ours. Sooner or later, you will have to say goodbye to them and it is often a hard test that is not always well understood by those who do not have animals in their lives. It is enough to have had one and to have known how to create a unique bond to understand the loss represented by a ball of love on four legs. For author Angela Garner, it is important to prepare well for this moment, when it is foreseeable due to an illness or the age of your animal.

As far as possible, it is suggested in particular to choose the right time for euthanasia. A period without other stress is ideal, because if you have shared your life for ten years with your four-legged friend, there is a good chance that you will be marked by great sadness and that you will find the house well. empty afterwards. Some will choose to overwhelm themselves with work, while others will take the opportunity to get away and take a vacation. Whatever your decision, to minimize the damage, take care to analyze the situation and talk to a loved one who may have been there and who will be able to advise you.

The author also discusses the different options to consider after the death of her pet, namely whether it will be buried or rather cremated. In Quebec, there are places allowing individual and assisted cremation. Some people will simply leave their animal with the veterinarian who will dispose of it, but many others opt to collect the ashes, for example, and keep them with them in the house or even bury the ashes on their own property. It's a way to soothe your grief by going to the end of what is possible in the circumstances. However, it should be understood that there is a normal grieving process such as fear, guilt, anger and grief and that it is important to respect each of them.

After the departure of his animal, guilt often surfaces. We wonder what our share of responsibility is. Did I consult the vet quickly enough? Did I take the proper care? Even if we can torment ourselves, even torture ourselves with a host of questions, we must also put things into perspective, knowing that death is a normal stage that is part of life.

The author also reminds us that there is always hope at the end of the road and that when the time comes, it will be possible to love again.