Women disgusted by the violence of dating networks

Women disgusted by online dating violence


Quebec women are fed up with the violence they witness via dating apps. According to them, the efforts of the technology giants are not enough to curb the problem. 

Margot Chénier created the Instagram account A dynamic guy in order to expose hate speech, discriminatory or misogynistic found on apps like Tinder and Bumble.

“Tinder just sends me fat LGBT people. […] In 6 years on Tinder, there is not a single beautiful girl who has liked me. Fake if you're not fat and you don't have purple hair, swipe right,” wrote a 39-year-old man in his profile description.

“What is what do you do to a girl who steals your cigarettes? Beat you. (tobacco)”, writes another user in a bad taste joke that he sends to a woman.

The issue of violence on dating apps will be discussed on the show J.E , tonight at 9:30 p.m. on TVA.

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Some of the comments made by the men are so shocking that Instagram has removed several posts from the page created by Margot.

< p>“I sent them a message to explain that it was a denunciation of the content, that it was not my own words, Instagram never came back to me on that,” says the young woman.

< p>The account is still active, but Margot is no longer adding new content to it. 


Anne-Marie Dupras, comedian and lecturer, launched the Facebook page My life in love with shit, about 10 years ago, among other things to denounce this violence. She notices that users of dating applications have difficulty accepting rejection, even if it is virtual. 

“When you go on a date, what does it work, one time out of five, but on the internet, you should always say yes. There are guys who get really angry,” she laments.

A young woman whose identity we are protecting says she was the victim of a sexual assault that took place after of a meeting via the Bumble application.  

“Once at my house, he wanted to do a sex act that I didn't want to do. […] Over time, he tried again. At some point, you're so tired of repeating no, there's so much insistence. He did not respect my consent. […] I just waited for the moment to pass. 

More protection 

Jessica Pidoux, a researcher at the Center for European Studies at Sciences Po, believes that the companies behind dating apps should adopt moderation best practices or even impose more verifications during registration.  

“The problem is that the creation of applications today passes as technological innovation,” she says, wishing that companies take more account of the dynamics in the construction of romantic relationships.

A Bumble spokesperson mentions via email that it is possible to block or report anyone who violates the guidelines and that reports are reviewed by the team. The company has also set up a Safety and well‐being center with advice in particular. 


A study by the Institute Australian Criminology Report, released this fall, finds that nearly three-quarters of dating app users have experienced at least one form of online violence in the past five years. 

  • 69% of respondents have experienced some form of sexual harassment
  • 41% have received an unsolicited intimate photo
  • 45% received abusive and threatening remarks 


In 2014, section 372 of the Criminal Code on indecent communications and harassment was amended to take into account telecommunications. 

372-2 (Indecent Communications)

“This offense targets the mode of conversation that is intended to be virtual and that will be done in order to alarm or annoy someone,” explains Me Amélie Rivard, of the Director of Criminal and Penal Prosecutions (DPCP).

372-3 (Harassing communications)

“These are communications that are going to be repeated. This repetitive nature is really the basis of the offense and there must still be the specific intention to harass the person who will receive them,” says Me Rivard.   

These two offenses can be punished by a maximum of 2 years in prison.

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