The “celicouple”: what is this lifestyle for two that appeals to those over 40?

Les individus âgés de 45 à 65 ans se montrent les moins enclins à cohabiter avec leur partenaire, avec seulement 22 % d'entre eux souhaitant une vie commune. wundervisuals/Getty Images

Contrary to popular adage, it may well be that the key to marital happiness does not lie in cohabitation. This is the emerging concept of the "celicouple", a new love trend that encourages people to fully experience their love without necessarily sharing the same home.

As the new year begins, yet another love trend is emerging, and it has a name: the "Celicouple." This fusion of the terms "single" and "torque" describes a way of life where two individuals live their love fully without actually living together. This way of approaching a relationship would particularly appeal to people aged forty and over. According to a study by the National Institute of Demographic Studies (INED), these are not not the young lovers who embrace the Celicouple with the most enthusiasm. It is individuals aged 45 to 65 who are the least inclined to cohabit with their partner. Only 22% of them would like to live together, while 68% of those aged 26-30 aspire to move in together.

Love while remaining independent

This preference for living together as a couple at home can be explained by the fact that they no longer share the same life goals as young people in their thirties. As Élodie Cavalier, love coach, explains in the Journal des Femmes, "the celicouple attracts people who have already experienced life as a couple, marriage, and have experienced the traditional relationship. In their second love story, they do not necessarily wish to reproduce the same pattern. She continues: "in this second wind, this new celibacy, they will want to meet, share, connect, but also find themselves with themselves".

Fans of the "celicouple" find many advantages in living separately, including being able to choose the best aspects of a relationship, such as outings and companionable moments, without suffering the (sometimes devastating) effects of routine. But this atypical love is not limited to that. "We can be ourselves with ourselves, it's a balanced way of living since we take the time to do different things beyond the couple", comments Elodie Cavalier. This relationship thus makes it possible to respect each person's need for solitude and independence. Partners can set aside time for their hobbies, their respective friends, etc. Although some may fear the partner's absence at crucial times due to this excess independence, this lifestyle does not ;does not prevent you from being invested in your relationship.

Individuals remain in control of their encounters and interactions, while being able to count on each other, because they' #39;is indeed a couple relationship. However, it is crucial to note that the Celicouple is not suitable for everyone. "Its limit is that this independence becomes a new living environment, which no longer allows the couple to flourish", underlines Johanna Rozenblum, clinical psychologist, contacted by Doctissimo. If you're considering this new approach, it's essential to fully discuss it with your partner and find what works best for you both.